SECRET THESAURUS

UNDERGOING A GENDER TRANSITION



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ABOUT THIS SECRET:
Undergoing a gender transition brings challenges that CONCEALING A GENDER IDENTITY does not: healthcare hurdles, physical changes, and, often, the emotional and physical toll of going through puberty a second time. Transitioners must learn not just how to work with their changing bodies but to navigate new social norms and expectations for their gender identity—all while enduring the exhaustion of maintaining an unwanted identity for as long as necessary.

CATEGORY:
Personal or Private (primary), Family and Relationships, Personal Health Issues

SIMILAR OR RELATED SECRETS:
CONCEALING GENDER IDENTITY

SPECIFIC FEARS THAT MAY DRIVE THE NEED FOR SECRECY:
ABANDONMENT, BEING ATTACKED, BEING JUDGED, BEING LABELED, BEING PITIED, BEING SEPARATED FROM LOVED ONES, BEING UNSAFE, CONDITIONAL LOVE, CONFLICT, CRITICISM, DEATH, DISCRIMINATION, HUMILIATION, ISOLATION, LETTING OTHERS DOWN, LOSING FINANCIAL SECURITY, LOSING ONE'S SOCIAL STANDING, LOSING THE RESPECT OF OTHERS, NOT FITTING IN, PERSECUTION, PUTTING ONESELF OUT THERE, REJECTION, TRUSTING OTHERS

HOW THIS SECRET COULD HOLD THE CHARACTER BACK:
Spending large sums of money and energy for medical and cosmetic treatments
Feeling unseen or invalidated when they are misgendered or deadnamed (even accidentally), potentially causing relational rifts
Worrying about medical risks non-transitioners don't have
Difficulty finding safe and appropriate health care
Dealing with discrimination and prejudice against trans people, even if their own status isn't known
Avoiding romantic relationships so they won't be rejected
Difficulty fitting in with people from their birth gender and the gender they're transitioning to; feeling like they don't fit anywhere
If they're detransitioning: being rejected or invalidated by their new network and old network so they're truly without support

BEHAVIORS OR HABITS THAT HELP HIDE THIS SECRET:
Wearing bulky, gender-neutral clothing to cover visible body changes
Presenting as different gender identities in different environments
Keeping people from different parts of their life separate
Destroying memorabilia of their assigned gender (photos, documents, etc.) to prevent others from discovering their original identity
Disconnecting from social networks to prevent being outed or misgendered
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ACTIVITIES OR TENDENCIES THAT MAY RAISE SUSPICIONS:
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SITUATIONS THAT MAKE KEEPING THIS SECRET A CHALLENGE:
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SCENARIOS THAT MAY ENCOURAGE THEM TO LET THE SECRET GO:
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RESULTS OF THE SECRET BEING REVEALED OR DISCOVERED:
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