EMOTIONAL WOUND THESAURUS

LEARNING THAT ONE'S PARENT HAD A SECOND FAMILY



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NOTES:
To many, the scenario seems ridiculous, the stuff of fiction: a parent who has a second family, complete with children. How could that be perpetuated over the long term? How would the families not know? Yet it happens often enough to have become familiar. And with the seemingly impossible logistics of such a scenario, it’s no surprise that the parent does usually end up getting caught, leaving a trail of betrayal, lies, destroyed families, and wounded loved ones in their wake. Whether one makes this awful discovery as a child, teenager, or grownup, the results can be long lasting.

WOUND CATEGORY:
Crime and Victimization, Injustice and Hardship, Misplaced Trust and Betrayals

BASIC NEEDS OFTEN COMPROMISED BY THIS WOUND:

love and belonging, esteem and recognition


LIES THAT MAY DEVELOP FOR CHARACTERS WITH THIS WOUND:
They'll always be someone's second choice
If they had been better behaved (or smarter, prettier, etc.), they would have been enough for the parent
They're defective in some way
They're stupid, because a smart person would have seen what was happening
If they weren't enough for their mother (or father), they won’t be enough for anyone else
Everybody lies

THE CHARACTER MAY FEAR:
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POSITIVE ATTRIBUTES THAT MAY RESULT:
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NEGATIVE TRAITS THAT MAY RESULT:
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TRIGGERS THAT MIGHT AGGRAVATE THIS WOUND:
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STEPS TOWARD HEALING:
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OPPORTUNITIES TO FACE OR OVERCOME THIS WOUND:
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