EMOTIONAL WOUND THESAURUS

HAVING PARENTS WHO FAVORED ONE CHILD OVER ANOTHER



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Emotional wounds will steer a character's behavior, corrupt his worldview, and cause negative traits to form. To understand exactly how this occurs, please read our tutorial for the Wound Thesaurus.

NOTE: We realize that sometimes a wound we profile may have personal meaning, stirring up the past for some of our readers. It is not our intent to create emotional turmoil. Please know that we research each wounding topic carefully to treat it with the utmost respect.
EXAMPLES:
Parents doting on a child because of a special skill, talent, or quality
Parents putting most or all their time into one child’s interests and hobbies
Parents favoring birth children over stepchildren (taking them on special trips, buying them gifts, etc.)
Parents establishing different rules and privileges for one child because of gender, birth order, etc.
Parents or caregivers being more affectionate with one child
Parents always blamed one child, even when a sibling was at fault
Parents disciplining one child more harshly than the others for the same transgressions
Parents bonding more with one child because of his or her pleasant disposition
Parents catering to one child because of an illness or condition
Parents pushing one child harder because he or she showed promise (to incentivize success) or because of behavioral issues (tough love)
Parents giving one child more freedom than the other

WOUND CATEGORY:
Injustice and Hardship, Misplaced Trust and Betrayals, Specific Childhood Wounds, Abandonment

BASIC NEEDS OFTEN COMPROMISED BY THIS WOUND:
physiological needs, love and belonging, esteem and recognition, self-actualization

LIES THAT MAY DEVELOP FOR CHARACTERS WITH THIS WOUND:
They'll never be as good as their sibling, so it's pointless to try
If they try harder to be good, their parents will love them as much as the sibling
There must be something wrong with them
Nothing they do is good enough
Being alone is better than being with people who don’t want them
They will never measure up to the expectations of others
Love is conditional
If you aren’t first, you’re last
Everything in life is a competition

THE CHARACTER MAY FEAR:
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POSSIBLE RESPONSES AND RESULTS:
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POSITIVE ATTRIBUTES THAT MAY RESULT:
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NEGATIVE TRAITS THAT MAY RESULT:
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TRIGGERS THAT MIGHT AGGRAVATE THIS WOUND:
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STEPS TOWARD HEALING:
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OPPORTUNITIES TO FACE OR OVERCOME THIS WOUND:
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