EMOTIONAL WOUND THESAURUS

BEING SENT AWAY AS A CHILD



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Emotional wounds will steer a character's behavior, corrupt his worldview, and cause negative traits to form. To understand exactly how this occurs, please read our tutorial for the Wound Thesaurus.

NOTE: We realize that sometimes a wound we profile may have personal meaning, stirring up the past for some of our readers. It is not our intent to create emotional turmoil. Please know that we research each wounding topic carefully to treat it with the utmost respect.
EXAMPLES:
Being placed in a boarding school (for academic purposes, to solve a problem for busy parents, to restrict one’s access to drugs or bad influences, etc.)
Being sent to live with a relative because of a parent’s inability to provide the right sort of care
Being sent to live with one parent because the other parent is unable to deal with behavioral issues
Being placed in a special needs school or care facility
Mandatory placement in a juvenile detention center
Being enrolled in a school to deal with an embarrassing incident
Being sent to live with a foreign host family against one’s wishes
Being placed in a reprogramming facility to eradicate perceived deviant behaviors (like sexual orientation) that go against the family’s beliefs
Being sent to foster care or placed in an orphanage

WOUND CATEGORY:
Misplaced Trust and Betrayals, Specific Childhood Wounds, Traumatic Events, Abandonment

BASIC NEEDS OFTEN COMPROMISED BY THIS WOUND:

physiological needs, safety and security, love and belonging, esteem and recognition


LIES THAT MAY DEVELOP FOR CHARACTERS WITH THIS WOUND:
Their value is in what they can contribute, not in who they are
They're rejected because they're flawed, so it's pointless to strive for anything else
To avoid rejection, they have to keep people at a distance
They don’t need anyone; they're stronger on their own
They don’t deserve love and companionship
If you show vulnerability, people will take advantage of you
Love is conditional
If you let people in, they weaken you
The best way to solve problems is by ditching the people causing them
When you need them most, people abandon you
Parents only love kids who are easy

THE CHARACTER MAY FEAR:
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POSSIBLE RESPONSES AND RESULTS:
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POSITIVE ATTRIBUTES THAT MAY RESULT:
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NEGATIVE TRAITS THAT MAY RESULT:
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TRIGGERS THAT MIGHT AGGRAVATE THIS WOUND:
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STEPS TOWARD HEALING:
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OPPORTUNITIES TO FACE OR OVERCOME THIS WOUND:
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