EMOTIONAL WOUND THESAURUS

BEING DISOWNED OR SHUNNED



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Emotional wounds will steer a character's behavior, corrupt his worldview, and cause negative traits to form. To understand exactly how this occurs, please read our tutorial for the Wound Thesaurus.

NOTE: We realize that sometimes a wound we profile may have personal meaning, stirring up the past for some of our readers. It is not our intent to create emotional turmoil. Please know that we research each wounding topic carefully to treat it with the utmost respect.
EXAMPLES:
Being kicked out of a group or organization one has been loyal to
Being excommunicated from a church
A child running away from home and not returning
A child’s abandonment by a parent
A family feud where one is not allowed contact with one’s grandchildren
One’s child seeking emancipation
An adult being shunned by his parents (after coming out, for converting to a different religion, for marrying outside of the family’s race, etc.)
Being disowned for getting pregnant out of wedlock
Being shunned for perceived disloyalty to the family (accusing a sibling of abuse, testifying against an uncle who was guilty of a crime, etc.)

WOUND CATEGORY:
Injustice and Hardship, Misplaced Trust and Betrayals, Abandonment

BASIC NEEDS OFTEN COMPROMISED BY THIS WOUND:

physiological needs, safety and security, love and belonging, esteem and recognition


LIES THAT MAY DEVELOP FOR CHARACTERS WITH THIS WOUND:
They can’t survive on their own
They need to keep their distance from others so they won’t be hurt again
If you want acceptance, loyalty trumps doing what's right
They're so terrible to be around, people want nothing to do with them
If they could be thrown aside so easily, those people didn’t love me in the first place
Love and acceptance are always conditional
Takers take, and givers are discarded when they have no more to give

THE CHARACTER MAY FEAR:
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POSSIBLE RESPONSES AND RESULTS:
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POSITIVE ATTRIBUTES THAT MAY RESULT:
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NEGATIVE TRAITS THAT MAY RESULT:
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TRIGGERS THAT MIGHT AGGRAVATE THIS WOUND:
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STEPS TOWARD HEALING:
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OPPORTUNITIES TO FACE OR OVERCOME THIS WOUND:
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