RELATIONSHIP THESAURUS

PARENT AND ADULT CHILD



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Relationships are part of the very fabric of your character’s life. How well or poorly they get along with others oftentimes comes down to personality, so carefully consider the positive traits and negative traits of your story’s cast. Another factor that can pull characters together or create friction is motivation, so keep each individual’s goal—both at the scene and story level—in mind as you write.
DESCRIPTION:
The parent-child relationship changes drastically as both parties reach adulthood and maturity. With perspective, the adult child may develop feelings of empathy, awe, respect, and deeper love for their parent. Or they might find themselves coming to grips with a childhood of neglect, abuse, and toxicity. The parent, likewise, may navigate different feelings surrounding their adult child's life, from pride and satisfaction to shame and guilt. With childhood being a formative time and an adult child being equipped with experience and understanding, this relationship has the potential for powerful dimension.

RELATIONSHIP DYNAMICS:
Below are a wide range of dynamics that may accompany this relationship. Use the ideas that suit your story and work best for your characters to bring about and/or resolve the necessary conflict.

Each party seeking to meet the other's needs
The two speaking daily, vacationing together, and otherwise seeking out each other's company
Both parties sharing in the raising of children/grandchildren
An adult child becoming a caretaker for their aging parent
One party seeking out the advice of the other
Either party striving to forgive, reconcile with, or make amends with the other
An adult child and parent who love and respect each other but aren't very close (due to physical distance, busyness, or another benign reason)
Two people who simply don't get along (because of religious or political differences, clashing personalities, parenting styles, etc.)
An adult parent who is still trying to control or orchestrate their child's life
A manipulative parent using a grandchild against their child to get what they want
An adult child who is still relying on their parent for their basic needs
An unreliable parent who acts more like the child in the relationship
An adult child hiding their choices from their parent and maintaining a façade
A parent and child who only get together for family functions but otherwise avoid one another
A toxic relationship filled with anger, accusations, blame, and even abuse
An estranged parent and child
An adult child being unable to forgive a parent for past transgressions
One party being predominantly selfish and seeking their own needs above the other person's

CHALLENGES THAT COULD THREATEN THE STATUS QUO:
The child wanting to revisit unaddressed childhood trauma 
One party relocating closer to or further away from the other
Either party disapproving of the other's lifestyle 
The child facing a challenge that requires additional time or financial support from the parent
The parent disapproving of the adult child's parenting philosophies
The child rejecting cultural or religious norms that the parent still embraces
The child finding out they have been lied to about their parentage 
One party making a choice that brings shame to the family
One person's addiction escalating so it impacts others
The parent divorcing
A single parent remarrying
Either party developing a serious illness
One person needing to borrow money from the other 
Either party needing to move in with the other 
The child setting healthy boundaries that the parent doesn't agree with

WOUNDS THAT COULD FACTOR INTO THE RELATIONSHIP:
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POSSIBLE CONFLICT SCENARIOS:
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CONFLICTING DESIRES THAT CAN IMPAIR THE RELATIONSHIP:
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CLASHING PERSONALITY TRAIT COMBINATIONS:
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NEGATIVE OUTCOMES OF FRICTION:
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FICTIONAL SCENARIOS THAT COULD TURN THESE CHARACTERS INTO ALLIES:
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WAYS THIS RELATIONSHIP MAY LEAD TO POSITIVE GROWTH:
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THEMES AND SYMBOLS THAT CAN BE EXPLORED THROUGH THIS RELATIONSHIP:
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